Chatter box at home but does not speak in front of others
zhumizhum posted on Tue, 12/15/2009 - 16:22
My son is 2.5 years old and he is a big chatter box at home. He can speak well and he would even interact well with us. But once he is out in public he just becomes dumb. He will not even say Hello to people. When asked something he just stands like that with no words from his mouth. Sometimes he even comes and hangs pulling my dress.
What could be the problem and how can I get him to speak in public.
zhumizhum, if your son speaks at home then for sure he has good verbal skills its just that he may not be comfortable in front of others. As you are saying that he hangs on with you all the time instead of playing its definite that he is not used to that kind of gatherings.
Try to make him free. Have some regular get together with family and friends where you have many other kids for your son to play with. Slowly he will get used to it and open up.
You need to set an example. Whenever you go to attend a gathering make it a point to talk to people around. A kid tends to follow what he see others doing. If you will be social then you kid will follow the same.
I feel that you are keeping your child confined to the life at home. If you will take him to a get together once in a while thats a totally different environment from what he has been living in so its natural for the child not to act normal.
Its very important for the child to get exposed to the outside world every now and then. This will help him. Start taking him to a park where he can mix up with kids of his age. Slowly he will start mixing up with people.
From what I understand the shyness of a child in public reflects a lack of confidence and for him to have this parents need to be the right role model for him. If parents are people who want to stay away from get together and meeting people the child in the family will grow to be similar.
I am saying this from my personal experience. I am not a party person but because I wanted to be on my own and hardly had friends my daughter was growing up into a similar personality. When I saw this I slowly changed myself and now both my daughter and son are very well behaved in public.
i am sorry to say but i have a basic question. why do you want your son to be a chatterbox in front of others?
Is it because you find few chatterbox around him? they are certainly noticeable. but i have to tell you that there are equal number or even more children around your son who are less talky. this is not a problem. but nature of your son, which is different from others. chances are some of those chatterboxes don't think as much as your son does. so appreciate what is good about your son and encourage him to do what he likes to do.
thank you for bringing out my thought process as well. kids being a chatterbox or mutebix is reflection of parent's behavior.