how to correct the behavior of child who often lies?
jelly5jam posted on Sun, 11/22/2009 - 22:09
my son is 5 years and 4 months. i am sad to write to this but he has become used to lying. he lies for every little things. very often he lies for something that does not even help him.
both me and my husband feel that he does not understand why he has to lie.
we have tried to make him understand that he doesn't have to lie. but that has not helped. when we sit with him and explain him that what he did was not right thing, he says that he will not do it again. but he repeats the same again.
it is very frustrating. i left my job for my son. therefore it pains me even more when i see this behavior.
am sincerely looking for your suggestion.
a worried mother.
i have been a silent reader. but this post made me write my first post. i have seen my brother's son in exactly similar situation. they were very worried. they even consulted some doctors. i think while he was in UK he had seen doctors helping in such cases. but in india it is not easy to find good doctors who know how to treat such child.
after he had lost all hopes, he decided to spend more time with his son. my bhabhi left her job and started spending almost 24 hours with him. she only took up her job after one year. it has been more than 5 years now. but now he is completely different and a very well behaved child.
after he had lost all hopes, he decided to spend more time with his son. my bhabhi left her job and started spending almost 24 hours with him. she only took up her job after one year. it has been more than 5 years now. but now he is completely different and a very well behaved child.
thank you brindas for your quick reply.
am happy that your brother's son has changed nonw. i can understand the difficulty that they may have gone through.
i have left my job as well. now my husband is planning to take a month off and spend our time together at some place away from the city where i live. we understand that the only solution is possible through spending more times with him. i think he does not know why he does that.
requesting everyone to send me your suggestion.
thank you very much
My feeling is may be you have been very strict with your kid. You have to give the kid also some space. I am sure he has some issues with the environment at home or school. It may also be that at school teachers are being very strict and he has got this habit from there and now he lies at home.
Definitely you need to talk this out. Don't just ask your son not to do it or its bad. You need to set an example.
Any child does not get such habits until there is something in the surrounding. It may be that he has been used to saying wrong things since he was a toddler but you thought he was a kid and ignored it. If this is the case then you have to set up things right by setting up examples for him.
And if he has got this habit recently then its definitely something wrong with his school environment or friends. Please keep a check on the kind of friends he has. And you need to get him away from kids with wrong behavior or may be you would like to talk to that child's parent.