how much talking to do with our children?
samay posted on Mon, 11/07/2011 - 16:03
This is really interesting. There is one child in the same apartment. he is the most naughty kid. I always thought that his parents do not spend time with him. This weekend we met for the first time even though we have been in this same apartment for almost 3 years now. And his mother asked me this question. She said that the kid takes her for granted since she spends too much time with him. He has certainly become very smart. But she gets to hear complain from everyone because of his behaviour. I always thought the more one talks and spends time with children, the better they become. But this revelation has left me confused.
spending more time does not affect child's behavior in negative. it can only be positive. of course if she is pampering her child all the time then its a different matter. I think she must be trying to make sure that her child gets everything that he wants. she may feel that she is helping her child this way. but fact is that the child will not no how to react when things do not happen according to his wish. that is when the child becomes naughtier. so i will not blame the time spent for the child's behaviour. I would rather blame the approach towards her child.
My perception is that making your child dependent will hamper him/her rather than being of help. So, it is always a good idea to give some space to your child that will let him/her explore the world as per their curiosities. Restrictions at each step bend them towards doing wrong rather than helping.
I do spend time with my children talking about a lot of from their games to what interests me. And I am sure this has a descent understanding of the world but I do give them space of their own as well.