managing two kids of a year apart at the same time
minimouse posted on Fri, 01/14/2011 - 18:34
hello expert moms,
i have a 21 months old son and an almost newborn daughter- 6 weeks.
i have been reading all the interesting tips from all of you. and that has been great help over last 9 months.
i am really worried about being able to take care of my little daughter without ignoring the elder one. i can see that my son is feeling neglected, even if i look after my daughter for 5 mins.
please suggest how can i manage both of them.
thank you very much to all of you.
first of all congratulation for your new baby, minimouse. you have selected nice name.
This is certainly a tricky situation.
one of the trick i have found workking is to involve elder one in taking care of the younger one. making him feel that it is fun for him. let him enjoy the game of taking care of the younger one. ask him what the younger one is doing. like has he finished his food. did hi make the bed dirty, etc.
I will say you need to find time for your elder one. Maybe you can take help of some family member who can be with your baby when you spend some quality time with your elder child. Make a routine to spend a couple of hours with your son. You might be aware what your child loves to do with you and make sure you do that with him like if he wants you to be there when he sleep maybe you can set a routine to be with him when he goes to bed.
I have been through similar situation. There is an age difference of just 19 months between my daughters. I struggled for past 1 year and now my younger one is an year old still there are problems. Some of the things that I did was I tried to have my elder daughter around me when I busy taking care of her baby sis. I showed her how I changed the baby's diapers to how I put her to sleep. And when the baby was asleep I spent sometime playing with the elder one.
I took my mom's help in the first 6 months to help me in taking care of the baby. Now I am trying to let my daughter's play with each other. Lets see how it goes.
I took my mom's help in the first 6 months to help me in taking care of the baby. Now I am trying to let my daughter's play with each other. Lets see how it goes.
I went through a similar situation with my elder kids have a age difference of 2 yrs and Ias said by dimple one definitely needs family & friend's help in this time.