Never give up for some unreasonable demands from your child. Your daughter is old enough to understand things. You need to sit with her and talk to her. Let her know that you are providing her with whatever she needs. If one of her friend has some good thing its not important that she should also have that. She might also be having things which others don't have.

May be you can show her some differences between you and your friend. But do keep one thing in mind. If some of your child's demands are valid for her needs to try to fulfill it and tell her that this she really needed so you got her. This way she will have a feeling that you are not saying "NO" without any reason.

On some special occasions like B'day, Diwali etc. give her new dress that will make her feel important. And sometimes you can even take her to choose what dress she wants. On her B'day may be give a gift she likes. And at all these times you need to make her feel that you are giving her things needed and you love her. These things will make her have more confidence in you.

Hellos to all moms,
Handling a daughter has its own challenges.. The mothers with sons complain about how naughty they are but having a daughter, one will have special difficulties like the one faced by yuktimaan.. For these things, you cannot tell your daughter that their demands are wrong as they see kids of the same age and understand things.. I guess the key is to make your daughter understand that she is loved and cared for which is the most important thing.. Besides, tell her that nobody has all the things and also that she is better off than many.. You might give the example of children living in slums who do not have two square meals a day.. And as rightly pointed out bu lalitha do try to satisfy the demand which are fair and can be fulfilled..
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Many of the kids have this kind of issue. If you think actually we adults have this issue its only that we express our feeling in a different way. Don't we feel jealous when we see our friends doing better or don't we like our relative's home decor want want to do better. So, this is just a human behavior.

yuktimaan, you need to handle this behavior carefully. If you give right values now you daughter will grow into a self confident and happy person. As said by cp222 you need to show your daughter how many kids are there who don't even get food. Actually you need to show her some slums how people live and how lucky she is to have a house, food and toys etc. what she needs. Make her give some of her old clothings, toys and food to needy kids. This will develop a giving feeling in her.

Another important thing she will get to see is there are lots of kids worse than her. Slowly she will understand that where she has many friends who has more than her but thousands of kids are there who are living in worse situation than hers.

Take your daughter for a trip to a slum and show her some needy families and how kids don't have enough food and clothes leave alone toys and the things they wish to have. Let her understand that she has been blessed by God to have enough to eat and wear and also most of her needs are met by her parents.

May be get some of your daughter's old clothes and toys ask her to distribute among the kids in the slum. I am sure this will help your daughter have better values.

I remember my parents always made us realise how blessed we were and also on special occasions we used to distribute things among poor.

Thanks a lot for all your suggestions.
Recently I did take my daughter to visit a slum and actually I did let her talk to the kids out there. I heard her ask some silly questions like where are your toys etc. When she discovered that they do not any toys and some of the thrown away things that they found on the roadside was their toys, made her think.

I am planning another visit next month. In the mean time I will let her ponder over what she saw.