Why my talkative son is shy to talk in public?
buggybun posted on Tue, 07/20/2010 - 12:30
My 5 yrs old son is a chatter box at home and with family members. Even in school he is ok with teachers and his classmates. But when it comes to public speaking it seems that he does not know how to speak.
Be it in some function at school or a get together my son becomes mum when he has to talk. Recently he had a fancy dress competition and he had to speak a few lines and he remembered it well but on the stage he could not speak.
Another event just yesterday we had a couple of friends visiting us and they tried to talk to my son but for the whole time he just did not speak anything apart from Hi and Bye.
I am clueless how to get him talking in public.
I am not a mom yet but what I think is that your child does not have confidence in himself so he is not able to express himself in public. First thing that you should do is try to make him confident.
As you have already said your child is talkative so once he has confidence he will be the same in public. Hope this is a lil helpful.
As you have already said your child is talkative so once he has confidence he will be the same in public. Hope this is a lil helpful.
I agree definitely the kid has lack in confidence. One thing that I would like to add is that kids tend to behave very similar to their parents and elders with whom they spend most of their time. Make sure you be a right example for him. Like when you go in public you do talk to people nicely and mixup rather than being alone and shy.
Seeing you and your better half your child will definitely catch up.
Many a times kids do not get comfortable in a group. You need to try and make him comfortable. Start by having a get together of kids of your son's age. See his behavior in such group and try to get him talking. I am sure your son will behave the same as he behaves at home.
Slowly you can try to get comfortable in elder people group. And last step comes when you let him be comfortable in presenting on stage.
buggybun, its very clear from what you have stated that you child is just shy in front of others. The best way to get him out of this is having more get together at home. By get together I mean not a party but a couple of friends invited to your home for tea or dinner. This way your child will get accustomed to new people around him.
While guest are there encourage your son to be around, play with them and eat with them. Slowly his exposure to more people will make him open up more.
I agree with desimom. Many a times knowing or unknowingly we keep our kids protected. We do not let them go to out and go along with many people. And this makes the child shy. Try to get your child used to meeting new people by inviting friends to your home.
You can also visit friends who has kids of your son's age. This will make him feel more comfortable. Sometimes do organize picnic with few friends who has kids. These things will help your son open up in public.