how do mother and father uniquely contribute to child's development?
ritushetty posted on Fri, 05/07/2010 - 17:11
i am not starting a philosophical discussion. just trying to understand how does mother contribute to child's development and same with father.
most importantly how are their contributions different?
i think this is little related boy vs. girl discussion that we already had once.
both father and mother have same intent, which is to take care of child. but a mother's perspective on taking care of a child will be different from that of a father. and this will come from the basic difference between make and female.
extrapolating your thought, do you mean to say that father helps bring in male related behavior like being bold, sporty, energetic, and mother brings in softness, caring, emotions, etc.
both father and mother have same intent, which is to take care of child. but a mother's perspective on taking care of a child will be different from that of a father. and this will come from the basic difference between make and female.
i almost agree with you. mainly on how personality or father and mother can have effect on child's development. but i don't agree on your generalization on personality of father and mother.
i think father is as emotional as mother. in fact male is considered to be weaker emotionally. they breakdown much quicker than women.
same goes for being energetic or sporty. commonly you will father doing this. playing with children. but i have seen a father in my apartment complex who is relatively quiet. mother is more energetic, takes the child for walk everyday. the child is also active. but not because of father but mother.
my husband says that father's discussion is usually revolves around subjects that are not so hot on mother's agenda. and one of the examples he often quotes is that mothers care about food and health whereas father will ask about performance at school.
it is almost impossible to list down contributions of a mother. and this is coming from a father.
but i agree with what you said. and i have a real example to talk about. my son and daughter. it is known that daughters like to spend time with father and son with mother. it is not as simple in our case. in general both my son and daughter can not live without their mother. while they have accepted the fact that i go to office, for shopping, etc. so i cannot be with them for all day.
but when it comes to playing my son doesn't want to do it with anyone else. he knows that for more physical activities he should play with me. we never taught him. he has probably observed other people or somehow realized that male do more physical activity. even when any relative or friend comes to our place, he asks the female person to cuddle him but when he wants to play he asks the male member.
he must have observed this around him. probably while playing in park.
what i am trying to say is that children also see either father or mother as their role model for different type of activity. when it comes to physical activities, in more cases it is the father who they look up to.
brotherJohn,
i hope by impossible you meant there are too many and not too few to list
just kidding.
one that i would like to list as mother's contribution is sense of security brought by mother. boys and girls s with deeper involvement of mother may be more confident. they believe they have someone to hang onto irrespective of what happens.
i hope by impossible you meant there are too many and not too few to list
just kidding.
one that i would like to list as mother's contribution is sense of security brought by mother. boys and girls s with deeper involvement of mother may be more confident. they believe they have someone to hang onto irrespective of what happens.
binisha,
it was the first one- too many to list
you are right about sense of security. don't we feel secured with our mother's presence even when we grow up?