Ways to help my daughter grow into a confident child
charlie posted on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 10:45
My daughter is going to be 4 years old and I have observed that she is not very confident when talking to a new person or even when she is interacting with other kids. She is not able to keep her stand when playing with kids of her age. Mostly I have seen giving up even when she is right. She is still young and I am struggling to help her have confidence in herself. What can I do please give me your inputs. Thanks in advance.
i think being confident is comparative. you become confident when you think you are as good as anyone. or when you think you know as much as you should. or you think you can do as much as you are expected to.
there are not many with this characteristics. however there are many children or grown ups who we call confident.
and the difference lies in they believing all three that mentioned above i.e. they know or they can do as much as they are expected to.
for you to be able to do this i suggest you to encourage your daughter whenever she does anything. right or wrong there has to be some good in what she would do. pick them out and praise her. this way she will start to believe in herself that she has the abiliyty to do good.
this is what i practice not only with children but even with adults.
just let her do what she wants to do. the more she tries more will she learn. and nothing gives you more confidence than trying on your own.
What works best with kids is that you have to make them feel important. That does not feel that you have to pamper them, just that you have to show them how they are unique with something good that they do. And never ever compare them with other kids this is very very important.
i have little different opinion here. what if she tries 10 things and fails in all 10. will you expect her to come out confident??
i think she will lose any confidence that may have.
i have little different opinion here. what if she tries 10 things and fails in all 10. will you expect her to come out confident??
i think she will lose any confidence that may have.
HnL,
i don't think petalvanij meant that you let her do whatever she wannts and watch her fail on everything. of course you would not want her to jump the floor if that is what she wishes for.
most parents, including myself, want to help our children with good intention. by doing this we are in a way stopping them from trying on their own. so they never know what works and what does not. if they try on their own, they may fail once but then they will think on how to make it work.
i have little different opinion here. what if she tries 10 things and fails in all 10. will you expect her to come out confident??
i think she will lose any confidence that may have.
HnL,
i don't think petalvanij meant that you let her do whatever she wannts and watch her fail on everything. of course you would not want her to jump the floor if that is what she wishes for.
most parents, including myself, want to help our children with good intention. by doing this we are in a way stopping them from trying on their own. so they never know what works and what does not. if they try on their own, they may fail once but then they will think on how to make it work.
i understand what you are saying. she should be allowed to try what makes sense for her. it is different from letting her make mistakes. what you are suggesting is not to let her make mistakes but to let her do things on her own. and i agree with this.
What works for me is I always involve my daughter in simple things. Like I would let her put things in place or if I am arranging clothes I will ask for her help. I feel involveing kids in day to day thing makes them feel that they can contribute in getting things done. And if they do it right praise them. This works.