Do you think that you should let your child decide about the stream to study?
nitulal posted on Mon, 05/24/2010 - 18:05
My daughter has given her 10th board exams this year. Her results are still awaited. She is adamant about studying Commerce but I want her to take Science. Because of this there has been many arguments among us recently. I am really worried whom should I let take the decision.
while her interests should be taken into consideration. fact is that most kids are hardly aware of what makes sense or why do they like the course. my husband keep telling me that after his mechanical engineering degree from a top institute he joined Mahindra and Mahindra to make jeeps. after he joined the company he realized that all he was supposed to do was to oversee some of the workers assembling some parts.
so i am all for children making their own decision as long as they are informed of what they might do in future. she thinks that commerce will get her opportunity of her interests. but she may be in for a big surprise.
I feel that if we force our likings on our children they will not be able to do justice to our ambitions as well as theirs. The best way is to let children decide on their own based on our guidance.
Its definitely true that kids are not mature enough to take decision but our new generation kids are much better informed and we should give them some space and discuss it with the child.
Though my son is still 7 years old my opinion is to make your child aware of everything from the very beginning of life. Grow them into a confident person who is well informed such that when the time comes to take such decisions the child mature and smart enough to choose the right path for himself. Just that you have to keep guiding and also informing him of sources where he could find info.
You should definitely express your liking but its not that you should enforce it. This is the best way to go with todays generation. Our time is gone when parents decided everything for us and we were just followers of them. Now the new generation have their own thought and liking and we need to give them space.
Its totally depends on how mature your child is. I have some children who cannot take such decisions and are totally moved by what others say. One of my neighbor's son gave his 10th board exam and he is so confused about what to study furthur.
Some of his friend suggested him to opt for Commerce as it will be easy. Some suggested Science so that somehow he could get into Engg. And the boy keeps changing his choice every now and then. If such is the situation the parents will have to take the stand.
What I have suggested to my neighbor is that she must be aware of strength and weakness of her son. Knowing those she should have some discussion session between parents and son and give her son a clear idea of each stream and then let him come to some conclusion.