Should I become a fulltime mom?
My baby is 10 months old and its been 10 months since I am out of job. Till now somehow I have managed to be on leave. But I really wonder should I leave my job for my baby? Most of the family suggests so but my mind does not agree for that. I am sure after few years my child will not need me as much and then I will not know what to do.
I have seen my sister who gave up her career for her child and now when her children are old enough and are busy with their school and extracurricular, she does not know what to do with her time. she are compromising thinking that she did this for her child but there are times when she is frustrated.
I do not want to go in any such state. I do not want to compromise with my career. But on the other hand I do not want to compromise in the upbringing of my child. What do I do? I have seen working moms bringing up their kids in a good way with the support of better half. Can I do so?
I will suggest you to continue with your work as otherwise you may regret it later in life. I am a working mom and I can assure you I am able to take care of my child's needs but definitely with the help of my family. I took off from work till my daughter turned 3 and then started with parttime and my in-laws were there to take care of my daughter.
Get some help at home of family & friends.
Though I am not a mom and I do not know what commitment will be needed for the baby. But I would say do not crush your desire and career for this. But yes if your baby needs you do take a break and keep doing something on the side in your free time. These days you can find something to do on the internet as well.
Apart from that you can even plan to do something around your hobby like maybe Painting, Dancing etc. etc.
I did leave my job on the birth of my son and do plan to join back once my son is about 3. Hope he will be able to manage when he is 3.
It is totally a personal choice. My son will be 8 months old and I am planning to get back to work next month. I started working from home once he was 6 months old. Now my mom in law has come to stay with us and my son is becoming used to her. We have also kept a fulltime helper who will assist mom in taking care of baby.
I cannot let m career go for a toss. I know my child is important but my career is equally important. I think I will be able to manage with the help of family.
It is not possible to just leave your job and live whole life being a housewife. I did leave my job after my first child for 3 years and then again for 2 years after my 2nd child. Definitely this did hurt my career a little as I could not do very good but I am satisfied as I did whatever I could in the early years of my children life.
This is fully a personal decision and depends on your situation. About me, I did leave my job when I was through 6 months of pregnancy. That time I had thought of getting back to work once my child was 1 year old. But as the time passed I could not leave my child with someone else. I went on extending the date for me getting back to work.
Now my daughter is 2 years + and she is going to playschool but still I am not back to regular job. Instead I have found an option of being a Freelancer and now I do the work at my leisure when I am free.
If you are a person who loves to have a career of your own, you wouldn't do any good to your child sitting at home feeling incomplete without your goals and achievements. It is definitely going to be difficult initially but is worth trying to get back to office. I quit my job for 1.5 yeras to take care of my child but beyond this I wasn't helping him by being a nagging and unhappy mom. Infact since the time I have joined my office, I spend quality time with my son and am able to take vacations with my family (Job certainly brings that extra bit). So its like I am back to an enjoyable and fulfilling life. The achievements at office are an extra boost to your confidence. So my suggestion - go ahead and see the world like a woman and not only as mom!!!
I also got back to job once my daughter turned 2. my_arnav you are so right, one cannot be a good mom if she herself is not happy. I also used to be frustrated most of the time thinking I was somehow hampering my career being at home. Now with part time job I have enough satisfaction and happiness to take good care of my daughter.
i share different opinion. i think taking care of baby is big job in itself. in fact more challening than what most job offers. other jobs will get you social recognition. whereas taking care of your baby will not be considered as an achievement. But the question is- do you care more about few words of respect from people around you or you care about smile on your baby's face?
Its so right, I would say taking care of your child is much more tiring than doing a regular job. Infact I am finding this job so difficult that I feel like leaving it and going for regular job
But I would like to say WORKING MOMS are definitely Super Heros if they are able to balance. I will also get back to work starting next year when my daughter will be 2. I also want to be a good working Mom.