before i put up this question, let me say that my husband helps me a lot in everything that i do for my child. from waking them up in the morning, to getting them freshen up, feeding, and gettind ready for school, he helps me with all.
but he says that he does more than any other husband in this world. how true is that?
please share your experiences. if you find this to be too personal then please ignore.
tricky question.
so the answer has to be tricky. which is- it depends on particilar father type. some fathers can be expected to do lot more. in coparison you cannot expect much from fathers of other type:) what i mean is it differs from person to person. some fathers enjoy sharing the work at home while others prefer to get involved only when it is required. accordingly they take greater share of responsibility on other matters of household.
if you are trying to find out where does your husband stand compared to others then you will not right answers here.
I think there are 4 types of fathers-
1) one who shares lots of work related to taking care of baby in addition to other household responsibilities like bills, etc
2) who does not do either of these. he neither takes caare of baby nor orther household responsibilities.
3) who takes care of babies but other houseold resposbility lies with the wife
4) one who does not enjoy baby related things but takes complete responsibiity of other household things.
therefore it is difficult to generalize the expectations from a father.
thank you kangana for your response, which puts things very clearly.
now that you have categorized the type of father, which i agree with, i can make my question more specific.
i was looking for opinion on fathers of type-1. But i am not looking for information on other household responsibilities. i am only looking for feedback on the baby related support provided by fathers.
thank you once again for the time you took to put things in perspective.
Though this generation father are very different from the previous generation. Most of them want to have some part in raising their kids. But if you think that means they should give a bath to your child and clean their potty then forget it. In other jobs like may be taking care of the kids all round development they will be actively involved.
My hubby does help me out with my son's day to day activity but when really needed. When taking about his development may be playing/reading etc. etc. he is very much involved.
My hubby is very sweet and since the birth of our son he has been trying to learn how to take care of him. Though he is not good at least he tries. As of now my son is 6 months old and I am sure as he grows up I can have full help from my husband.
I have been getting full support from my husband in all kinds of households from the very day we got married. He does help me with my daughter's care whenever he is available and has time. Though I cannot expect him to take care of my daughter all alone even for a single day.
Before i say anything, I AM A DAD.
happy to hear about your husband. wish i could be like him. can you pl. get him over here to share his perspective.