Will my child be lonely without any sibling...
cp222 posted on Fri, 02/05/2010 - 14:39
My daughter is going to be 5 years old. And there is a lot of pressure from my in laws and parents to have a second child. The reason they give is that my daughter will feel very lonely without any sibling.
I do not want to have another child as my feeling is I have to give my best to one child I have. I am not sure if I will be able to give the best to both kids if I have two.
Sometimes I do have worries if in my giving my best I am leaving my child lonely. It would be great if I get to hear your views regarding this.
Thanks
cp222, this should be totally you and your husband's decision as I feel that you know the constraints that you might have in raising 2 or more kids. For me I decided on this the day I planned to have kids. I have one daughter and I want to be a proud mom for just one child. I am working and I have few hours for my child that also I do not want to distribute.
One very important thing never let others influence your decision.
Many a times with siblings also a child could be alone. My feeling is a child needs a company of their own age rather than a sibling. If she has some good friend to play with and talk with then why will a sibling really be required. Yes at home you have to be your child's friend. And thats all that is needed.
I do not think a any child needs a sibling, its just that he needs a company. And that company can be any of his close friend as well. If you have emotional or financial constraint because of which you cannot support more than one child don't do so. Otherwise this could be a mental trouble for you later in life.
I definitely think that every child needs one child to play with apart from parents. That is why I planned for 2 kids. And now I see how the 2 of them are happy to have each other.
Now my daughter is going to be 3 years old and I am also facing similar question about having a second child and people keep telling me how I would be doing injustice to my daughter by not having a sibling for her.
Before this point I also never thought of having a 2nd baby but now lots of questions are going on in my mind. Definitely my daughter will have lots of benefits of having a sibling. As a kid she will have someone to play with and having a younger sibling she will have someone younger than her to care for and also let her be bossy elder one. As she grows older she will have some by her side to talk about family. And once when we are not there by her side in her joys and sorrows she will have her sibling.
Still what about me and my hubby. Will we be able to take up the responsibility emotionally and financially? Lots of answers are required. And we have to see which option to go for.