please help me
holipan posted on Sun, 08/23/2009 - 18:35
Hi,
We have been trying to conceive for last one year. We have not been successful. Now i am concerned if we have some issues with fertility. my husband also seems to be worried. but none of us talk about it openly.
I have been thinking of consulting doctor who can help to find out the proble. i have read about some tests on internet. while i am scared of results, i am thinking of going to a doctor without telling my husband.
Please suggest if you have any experience. can i trust the result of such tests.
i will be very thankful for any suggestion.
regards,
holipan
hi holipan,
test for fertility is very common. if you have been visited any doctor during past one year then they must have suggested you some of those tests.
now a days, this is one of the first thing the doctors suggest if you visit them.
most simple of them all is ovulation test where they test if you are ovulating properly or not.
there are other tests that may require small surgery.
i have one suggestion. please visit 2-3 doctors to confirm the result of any such test. in this case it is even more important since credibility of the result will also depend on the time when they conduct the test.
best of luck
have you considered the fact that the problem could be with your husband.
so get your husband tested as well. without that this is wastage.
these tests are carried out by most hospitals. as gothere wrote, consult more than one hospitals. hospitals like apollo have better all modern equipments that is available anywhere in the world.
so get your husband tested as well. without that this is wastage.
these tests are carried out by most hospitals. as gothere wrote, consult more than one hospitals. hospitals like apollo have better all modern equipments that is available anywhere in the world.
i was worried about that. i was thinking what if everything shows positive in my test.
i don't know how to tell my husband to get tests done. we have very open relations between us. but i don't know how he will react if i ask him to take tests.
but first i will take test myself.
regards,
holipan
i have seen that many times we are more cautious than we should be in speaking to our husbands.
if he really wants to have kids, which i am sure he does, and he knows that you have undergone checkup then why won't he also go for that.
from what you say, it looks like you two have very good relationship. my suggestion is to let your husband know about your plan to undergo tests yourself. let him know now that in case results does not bring out any issues with you then he should also undergo similar checkups.
in my case, i would have asked my husband to get the tests done together. and this is not because i am fghting for equal rights. we have that level of understanding and this is something that is of his interest as well so why won't he agree on this. considering your unease , i will not ask you to tell your husband to undergo checkups now. but i still recommend that you keep your husband of what you plan to do now and all the support you need from him.
anyway, this is just my way of thinking.
wish you all the best.
be careful of doctors.
don't sound too desperate. otherwise they will rip you off.
don't sound too desperate. otherwise they will rip you off.
very true.
that is why i prefer to go to some hospital. there doctors have less personal interest compared to doctors sitting in their own clinic.
you can try Apollo, if there is one in your city.