right time for 2nd baby
bolymom posted on Sat, 02/12/2011 - 22:02
I am a mother of 8 months boy.
My husband wants another baby now. I also want one more baby but now now. I wanted to wait for some more time. But my husband says this way we can raise both of them together.
My first son was a cesarean. 2nd one may require cesarean. actually 99% chance that it will be cesarean because the first was cesarean. please tell me if this is correct. Taking this into consideration, do you suggest to wait longer before planning for our 2nd baby?
Not sure who told you about almost zero chance of normal birth if your first child was cesarian. I remember asking my doctor exactly very same question. And if i remember correctly he said that there is at least 70% chance of having regular birth for my 2nd child.
i know people who have had their 2nd pregnancy 4 months after the birth of their first child through cesarian.
but somehow it is my personal belief that we should give 1 year for healing of wounds due to surgery.
bolymom is correct. usually doctors ask to wait for a year so that the surgery part of wound can heal completely and one can have a save pregnancy.
she is correct partly even on her 2nd belief that since the first birth was cesarean so the 2nd one has to be cesarean. most doctors believed this. Now in bigger cities you will find two types of doctors. one who ask you to go for cesarean in all cases. others who try to go for normal delivery as long as it is safely possible. in smaller cities doctors are more conservative and less risk taking. therefore they will suggest to go for cesarean in 2nd pregnancy if the first one was cesarean. it is not as if there is no risk with regular delivery if the first was a cesarean. so none of them are obviously better option than the other. in such case i do what the doctor suggests since that is what she knows best.
one of my cousin has 2 daughter and a son. i think she wanted a son so went for the 3rd one. and all three were cesarean. difference between the first two is less than one year. her son was born after 2 years. i think many cesarean is not good also. she never had any complications.
Both my deliveries were C-section. I have also heard that after one C-section its difficult to have normal delivery but this is definitely not an expert's comments.
And in my opinion planning for 2nd baby so soon is not good for your health. You have been through so much of physical stress due to the operation and am sure your body with not be ready for such a stress again.
I am sure it is not good for you emotionally and physically to have your second baby so soon. Give sometime to your body get back to normal. And emotionally also you should be prepared to handle two kids. Otherwise you will not do justice to both your kids.
Hope your hubby understands. All the best.
Hope your hubby understands. All the best.
I agree its too early to plan for the second child.
I am also of the same view as other members have suggested. Its not at all advisable to have a 2ns baby so soon.
Its totally you & your family's decision. A friend of mine has two kids with an age difference of just 11 months and they are able to raise them properly with their parent's help. And she is happy that she does not have to wait for years and then again go through the nine months of pregnancy.
My daughter is going to be 4 years old and am planning for a 2nd baby. I feel I was not ready for a second baby before this. But if you have less time plan earlier but not before your first child is atleast 18 months old.
Thanks for all your suggestion. Majority agrees with my point of view of not having a baby so soon. Will try to convince my hubby and family.