Why have a second child?
mahika posted on Thu, 09/22/2011 - 11:34
My daughter is 4 years old and I am being asked by all my elders to plan for my second child. Before this I have never even given a thought about having another child. I was so much involved in bringing up my daughter that I did not give an thought to thus. Now that I have been listening about this.
I am trying to find if I really need to have another child. I do need your views on this. What reasons can a mom have to have second child.
I have only one child and I was never able to convince myself to have a second child as I was and am very sure that I cannot take the emotional and financial stress of two children.
A company for your first child and another chance to live your childhood but yes only if you can manage financially and emotionally.
I feel that for a family with one child the child is lonely and there are something the child can share with siblings that precious relationship will be missing in your first child's life. There is a special relationship that one shares with brother/sister and that can be a void in your child's life if you do not have a second child.
I have 2 daughters and though they are still still only 6 and 2.5 years old it seems that they cannot live without each other. This bond can there be only between siblings. Trust me this bond is really needed for a child. So, if all other aspects are fine I will suggest to go for a second child.
I have seen a cousin of mine lonely. He was the only child and till now he has complaints why his parents did not have a sis for him. Even though I share a close bond with him that void of own sibling is there.
From what I have seen in my siblings family the first child is responsible and serious while the younger one is a bit of rebel and he/she always have a elder one to protect him/her. Mostly parents are also easy going with the second one. This way the two kids complement each other. This could be another reason for having a second child.
Though I am giving this reason I have not been able to convince myself if I should have a second child. I have a daughter and still thinking if should go for another child.
Sometimes later in life God forbid if something happens to your only child at that time you may not be in a position to have a baby. So, better to plan before.
I do not agree with this idea as if something wrong is expected to happen in future that can happen even if I have many kids. Have second child only if your heart and mind both allows not for your first child and not even for future.
I am going to have my first child and from now itself I can see the financials that we will have to manage for a child. With these in mind I do not think I will plan for another child until and unless we are really financially secure and I am in the age that I can have baby.
From the comments it seems most moms prefer to have 2 for varied reasons from loneliness of child to some security for themselves. I am still not sure as to what I will do but yes one thing is decided that I will not think of another child for next 2 years and wait for our family to have better financial stability.
A really interesting discussion. As far as I know this is a big question going on in the minds of new parents. Many of my friends are juggling between have or not a second child.
Till now my vote is for NO.