Dealing with 17 months old tantrums - working mom
gangasinha posted on Thu, 07/01/2010 - 20:42
I am a working mom and I get to be with my daughter only in the morning and evening and the rest of the time she spends with her grandparents.
My 17 months old daughter is becoming very naughty and she is very ziddi. If she wants something she will cry for it till she gets it. I have tried distracting her but slowly this also is not much of help. She does listen to strict No. She does get the idea that she is doing something wrong and she should stop it. But the problem is I am not there all the time and grandparents give up when she cries.
I am really confused how should I get her out of this. Why is she so ziddi. I am sure many moms are going through the same situation. Will love to know how you have been handling this.
Your child might not be getting the feel that somethings he will not get. As you said when she is with her grandparents she get things on demanding my any means. You have to make sure that all the people who spends time with her are on the same page. Make sure no one gives up at her tantrums.
Your No will works only then. So, you need to talk to your parents to make sure they support you for the better of the child.
Its very important for every person to have same set of rules for the kid. I faced a similar problem with my son. I used to say No for somethings which he insisted to have and was not good for him. Like he wanted to eat a lot of chocolates and I would not give him more than one in a day. But his dad who used to travel a lot always got lots of chocolates for him.
This way with 2 adults in a house having different set of expectations I was not able to control the chocolate eating of my son. One day I sat down with my hubby and asked him to change what he was doing. We set some rules and both of us did stick to which helped with my son.
So, please see to that.
I think its very important for parents to set the right expectations for the kids at this age. I am sure at this age they do understand much about discipline but we as parents can set right examples and environment so that they get used to behaving.
I guess tantrums are birth right of these toddlers. It scares when I think of few months back what I had to go through. My son became so stubborn. He would cry for whatever he wanted. And nothing worked till we gave him what he wanted.
Slowly things are improving.
I am sure your child will also get back to normal behavior slowly. Just follow your instinct and do your best. And definitely have a consistency in the way you get back to your child's tantrums.