taking care of parents
newmem posted on Fri, 04/30/2010 - 02:09
we have talked a lot about taking care of our children?
let's share some of the concerns of our parents. one of the concerns which my parents have and i am sure many would agree is their loneliness. they do not want to come to live with us. they say that they have got their own society there.
but the fact is that no one cares about others. most of the time my father and mother have no company. can we do anything to make their life better?
My parents also did not want to stay with any of us. But since they love their grand children me and my sibling are somehow able to convince them to come and stay with us.
As they might get bored staying at one place they stay with me for 4 months and similarly at my sibling's place and a couple of months in hometown. When they are at my place I make sure I keep them busy like I give them the responsibility of taking my kids to and from bus stop and also getting vegetables and all are their responsibility etc.
This way they know that they are helping and busy.
I think that its better for our parents to live their life as per their liking. The only thing I have asked my father is that he should keep himself busy. My father has retired but still he has taken up a private job and he is happy being busy. Mom also is busy in households and some social work.
They do visit us when they feel like.
My father is still in job but from now he is worried what he will do once he retires in a couple of years. I have advised him to start a small business with less investment which will keep him busy.
My feeling is my parents are happier staying on their own and all of us meeting once in a while.
My feeling is my parents are happier staying on their own and all of us meeting once in a while.
I agree to some extent but still I feel they need company and it is better if we get them stay with us when they are retired. We can help them make a group of their own age. They can get together and chat, have parties etc.
I think now our parents are smart enough to plan for themselves. My father has retired recently and they have a full plan to go to all tirth places. So, I do not think we their children have to worry about them.