Am not a good Mom - cannot handle the stress of handling twins
dishamani posted on Thu, 06/02/2011 - 13:04
I have twin son who are 3 years old. And though after their birth I am at home mom still I do not find enough time to do everything. It has become too stressful for me to handle the two of them. They are extremely naughty and very fussy eater. And they fall sick frequently. Due to these I feel stressed 365x24.
Because of my stress I end up taking out my anger on them. Then I feel very guilty and decide not to be bad with them still I cannot control myself when things go out of control.
What should I do?
Twins God. I am tired handling only one. My 2 years old daughter is very naughty and I am trouble handling her alone. So, for few months I ask my mom or mom in law to help me out.
Why don't you take a family member's help.
I know it might be very difficult but do not blame yourself and loose hope. Take help for sometime and find sometime for yourself in a day. This will be really helpful for you.
Its very natural to get stressed. I am stressed with one kid itself and I can definitely understand your situation with two. Try to get some fulltime help at home for all the households and just dedicate all your time to your children. I hope this helps.
Why don't you take a family member's help.
Thanks for your input. Its great that you can get support from your family. I do get help from my family for short duration but that is not of much help as by the time my kids get adjusted with them its time for them to leave. Due to some personal issues they cannot stay for longer duration. Anyway I am trying to get my mom to help me out for next few months lets see.
I also get feelings about not being a good mom every now and then but what I do is try to do my best and then off course get some help if I can. Then also I know I can never ever be perfect.
I have two daughters with an age difference of 2 years and I feel that they are like same age. Both fight for toys for me and anything and everything. Many a times I also feel that I am not able to be a good mom.
I discussed the same with my parents and they told me that I should keep doing my best and definitely it will give good results once my kids grow up. Now I am giving my best and waiting for the day.