Care for a mom who lost her baby
ektasharma posted on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 18:07
My sis-in-law lost her baby during delivery. She is in a great shock. I am really worried about her and need tips from you on how to take care of her in such a time.
Its very to hear about your sis-in-law. All my Best wishes for her. I think she will need the support of whole family mainly her better half. A baby is a bundle of joy or each mom and after carrying one's baby in her womb for nine months one looses her baby its very sad.
One good thing would be to let her go to some place which she loves with her hubby. Being at home will make her more sad with memories of her baby around.
After she is physically ok let her get back to normal work routine. If she is working let her get back to work and it will be of great help if no one in family or friends try to share her grief by talking of the baby again and again which people tend to do.
Its really sad.
I will suggest to remove all memories of the baby from home. I am sure your sis-in-law might have made some preparation for her baby to come. It will be better to remove all those thing. And I agree with eva on that she should go out for a vacation with her hubby.
The best thing will be to let her do something which she loves and enjoys. She might be having some hobby which she enjoys let her get involved in it when she has recovered physically.
You as a near and dear one can make her feel cared for and loved. But ib the process you should never let her feel that you are tring to console her.
I am very sorry for the loss of your family.
As suggested by others the best thing would be to get back to normal routine work. One thing that I feel can be really helpful, let your sis-in-law get involved in something where she can help people in need once she is ready for it.
Maybe if she loves the company of children she can be a part of organization that helps special children and orphans.
Its so sad. All my best wishes for the mom and family.
I am planning to be a mom and I can feel the emotional stress of the mom who lost her baby. Please be with her and try to keep her happy.
Thanks ladies for all your valuable inputs. I am trying my best to take care of my sis-in-law and actually I have got her to my place to change the environment and I did invite her friends to give her company. And as you all suggested am trying to get her back to her normal day to day life.
I understand that you are very concerned about your sister-in-law, but I doubt that its a good idea to keep her with you for long. I think its best that the couple spend time with each other. It's important that her husband spends time with her and talks to her, as she would be most comfortable with her husband. With you she might try to suppress her true emotions. It's not a bad thing to cry to express ones sense of loss. Although this should not continue for long.