How to Be a Happy Stay at Home Mom
Every baby likes to stay at home mom. Stay at home mom benefits to the child also. Today we will cover here briefly, how to be a happy stay at home mom.
You know her well. She is the mom who cooks, cleans, does laundry, helps kids learn to tie shoes and maintains the mini-van with precision.
She makes the finest homemade cupcakes on birthdays, always shows up at the preschool for parties or special events dressed to the nines and seemingly has the picture-perfect life.
You may wonder if she has cloned herself in order to keep up. Then, you may recognize her as your self! Being a super mom is difficult. Being a regular mom can be a full-time job.
It seems that so many women these days feel they must pull double duty, working jobs and taking care of the kids full time which leaves them completely exhausted and depleted of passion. While at first, you won’t recognize that you are doing too much, it will eventually catch up to you.
Then, you can be ill or emotionally drained – neither of which helps you take care of the kids. In order to be a successful mom, you have to know when to say when. You have to be able to pull yourself away and recharge your maternal batteries by paying attention to your own passions in life.
Before you had kids, you were a well-rounded person with interests that made you both interesting and interested. It is a completely untrue statement to think for one minute that doing for you is selfish or that it shortens the measure of your maternal instinct.
The fact is, if you take care of yourself and feel happy inside – you will be able to bring that joy to your mothering. If you aren’t happy, you bring the dismal robotic existence to the plate of your family which is a distasteful meal, to say the least.
Every mother should put her self. Not only are you an adult now but you deserve it. It is important to role model for your children that taking care of yourself should be a priority in life.
This may mean setting limits on the children for your time or requesting help from others – but in the end, it is your own well-being that you will save.
There are phenomenal numbers that support this theory. By the time women hit the age of 40, the incidences of stress-related illnesses increase twenty-fold.
While age can certainly be a factor, it stands to reason that after several years of focused motherhood, women become smothered and resentful of all that they give.
They become a shell of the person that they were and they realize that despite being super mom, they are not superwomen!
They are privy to all the nasty little discomforts that putting yourself last on the totem pole brings and heart disease, heart attack, stress, depression, weight issues, thyroid problems, diabetes as well as more illnesses become par for the course. It doesn’t have to be this way and it shouldn’t.
Every mom deserves a break and being a super mom means being able to handle the duties of motherhood along with the duty to take care of you. If one exists without the other super-mom is simply walking a tight rope that will flex at some point.
Your family needs you and depends on you wholeheartedly! If you are unable to be there for them, your efforts will all be for not. Yes, it WILL feel funny at first. Still, you have the obligation to make breaking out of your maternal box a normal part of life.
Not only will you respect yourself, but your children will have more respect for you as well. They will have a positive role model to look to and will be lucky to have a happy parent to call their own.
All other things in life, the dishes, laundry or cooking will wait for you. In the meantime, read your book, take your walk, go out with your friends, pursue your passions and make your life much more than just taking care of others 24/7.