My Child Has No Friends
My Child Has No Friends! Tips & Tricks to Help Socialize Your Child.
On playgrounds around the world, there is always that one child who seems to be alone. No matter how hard they try to catch up with the other kids or engage them in a make-believe adventure, the other children seem to naturally shun this child and he or she is left dumping the sand in the sandbox by themselves.
On a close-by park bench is a worried mom or dad, who feels hopelessly saddened by their child’s inability to make friends. Just like in the rest of life, toddlers to come equipped with various social skills that can go from popular and hip to drab and boring.
The good news is that with a little help from loving parents these kids can break out of their recluse shell and become as socially adept as the kid on the next swing. Your child has no friends! Here are some tips!
1.) Help your child make friends by organizing one on one playgroups first. If you can carry these out at your own home, you will be able to witness your child’s behavior and coach from the sidelines. If they are averse to sharing, you can teach them how to do it.
If they don’t seem to converse with a toddler pal, you can help pull out the conversation. Obviously, you should be leading rather than controlling your actions so you can help to build their social confidence.
After your child has mastered playing with a small group, they will become better able to handle larger groups.
2.) Talk to your child about friends. Employ the use of well-written children’s books that talk about friendship and ways to be a good friend. Also, show them these traits at work. Toddlers are able to digest lessons when they see them in action.
If you and a friend are making plans, explain to your child how you go about this and let me listen to you negotiate. Even though your toddler is young, they will be able to see your hints in action and see how well they work.
3.) Roleplay. When it’s just mom, dad and child there is a good chance your child will feel comfortable expressing themselves. Reenact specific playtime situations such as the bully on the slide, sharing on the swings or playing a game of chase allowing your child to switch roles to see how they can alter their reaction.
This will help build confidence in their own voice and opinion and will show them in a safe environment how certain behaviors will “work” with others. Make sure you take on the role of a toddler rather than an adult. When they do something that isn’t socially appealing, see if they can figure out why you reacted a certain way.
4.) Enroll them in an activity. If your child is not in school, you will probably see a huge difference in how they behave around others versus their preschool friends.
Enroll them in gymnastics, a playgroup or another local recreational activity to get them involved. This way you can be there with them and allow them to socialize under supervision.
5.) Don’t write off their social ineptness on other kids. Your child probably doesn’t notice that the other kids are avoiding him or her the way you do.
Rather than point it out or compensate for it by doing something doting, allow them to talk about it in their own toddler way. If you are constantly bringing it up, you will create issues where there may be none.
6.) Don’t force them to play with others. Each child is different and while some are natural-born social butterflies, yours may prefer engaging in imaginative play that is not uninterrupted by others.
If they seem to have fun in social settings whether they are by themselves or not, allow them to make changes on their own. Some kids at a young age are much more discretionary about who they befriend.
7.) If you are overly concerned, notice a lack of smiling or emotion with friends and family consider talking to your doctor about autism. Often, mild autistic tendencies appear in social situations first.
One or all of these techniques will certainly help your child integrate more easily. Still, it is important to foster choice and independence in your child rather than force them to do things that make them uncomfortable.
Kids mature socially at drastically different times and by the time they are halfway through elementary school, you will realize that your worries were all for nothing.
Children phase in and out more quickly than the weather and what concerns you today may be the total opposite of what concerns you down the road.
Embrace their independence and social skills and foster new ones by rewarding positive behavior socially and otherwise. You certainly don’t want to leave your child with the impression that being accepted by others is their number one priority.
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