Pros and cons of having a second child
Deciding to have another child can be a difficult decision. Sometimes the decision is made for you, while other times couples take years to decide. Is the time right for you? Find out the pros and cons of having a second child.
The time from pregnancy through infancy and into the toddler years seems to pass at lightning speed. One moment, you are immersed in caring for a newborn and the next you realize that your child is slowly but surely moving away from you.
For many parents, this is a time when they start wondering about whether or not the time is right to add to the family again.
The answer is not exactly concrete, as each family has a different set of circumstances. But if the inkling is there and you truly wish to expand upon your family – there are some pros/benefits to going ahead and doing it.
For one thing, siblings tend to be a lot closer when they are just a few years apart. In addition to that, you probably have a houseful of baby products you haven’t been able to part with, which means your next child will have plenty of stuff!
The best part is you won’t have to pay for it. Apart from that, waiting too long to have children can feel like starting over.
While you may not see it now, there is some solace in having your infants and babies raised up a little bit and off to school. Not only can you start having half a life of your own – but you can also start building your future.
If you are thinking about planning a child, you should consider a few things. For many people, finances and their housing situation are factors in whether they have another child. For others, it could be the developmental status of their other children.
I can say firsthand that having them very close together robs you of some very special moments with each child. It is wonderful to have only one baby at a time. If you have another too quickly, life gets hectic and instead of just enjoying your baby you will often feel overwhelmed.
It is common that one parent wants another child and the other doesn’t. For many couples, this argument can linger on for days. You aren’t the first one to try and make deals and bargains with your mate in order to have a second child.
It is best for both of you to agree. Since that is not always possible, you should be as honest with your spouse as possible as to why you want another child.
For many women especially, seeing their children grow up and away is a sad experience and them long to be needed again in the ways they were with a baby in the house. Thing is…he or she won’t be a baby for long.
The truth is there is never a perfect time to have a child. Doing so definitely, don’t fix broken relationships and certainly doesn’t ensure that you won’t lose your job in a year’s time or have some other difficulties arise.
The best notion to base this important decision is your heart. Having children, building a family takes a long-term commitment. Sadly, the shortest period of time you will spend as a parent is in raising an infant or baby. What comes next is harder by far and often more troubling.
If your heart is ready for another child, then go for it! Worrying about all the ‘what if’s’ and trying to make sure your life is perfect can take much longer than you have left.