What to do when a child embarrassed by parents
There are many things that parents feel and don’t admit. At some point in your life, you will find that your child embarrasses you. They may constantly throw fits, act as the town hall bully at playgroups or refuse to wear clothes that match or shoes that fit.
Moms everywhere stutter and stammer in order to make excuses for their child so they won’t be judged by the other members of the mom kingdom.
If your child is overweight, stutters or has some sort of learning disability that seems to make him constantly behind, a sense of guilt takes over and you may feel tinges of shame that are quickly replaced by shame for feeling embarrassed of your own flesh and blood.
But let’s face it, children rarely grow up to be exactly how their parents dreamed they would and feeling ashamed or embarrassed of a personality trait or behavior of your toddler is really unnecessary.
When you realize that your child isn’t doing something that fits neatly between the pages of the latest parenting handbook, you may immediately feel pressure to take action so that they will conform.
What most parenting books and manuals on raising children fail to mention is that no two children are exactly alike and while your child may struggle with reading, they may a gifted genius in other areas of their life.
As a parent, it is important to adjust your thinking so that you can support their skills and accomplishments and help them to feel proud of all the things that they can do. Rather than force the reading it should be nurtured while their true passions are allowed to blossom.
School environments can be extremely restricting for children who suffer from learning disabilities or have emotional issues that stymie them from learning on the average curve. Rather than feel embarrassed or helpless, you should try to advocate their skills to teachers and the school system in the hopes that they can find a program that suits your child.
When it comes to how your child acts in public or with groups of other kids you have to simply be open to correcting behavior. If you find that your child is the one that always acts up or ends up hurting another child, again the pangs of embarrassment may come crushing in.
Rather than take a punitive approach that pigments their wrong behavior, try to take a positive action that shows them how to turn it all around. Talk to your child and ignore other parents who give you those condescending glares.
Chances are their child has issues of their own that they aren’t talking about. Your role as a parent isn’t to make your child conform or fit neatly into the larger group. It is to take their strengths to the next level so they can be self-confident.
Many parents are embarrassed about the way their child looks. Perhaps she is stuck on wearing sleepers day in and day out and refuses to adorn a pretty dress like the other girls her age. He may be a little overweight causing you to worry and attracting judgmental looks from other parents.
Your daughter maybe 4 years old and still not have any hair. There are numerous things that can cause you to feel embarrassed or ashamed and you have to know that this is a natural feeling. We all want our children to be perfect and to not stand out in a world that is governed by looks and abilities.
We all want our children to be considered “normal” without realizing what normal really is. When we are faced with something that makes our kid slightly different we can become paralyzed with fear and consumed with worry that the road ahead for our child is bumpy. Yet, there is an alternative approach as well.
If you remain proud of your child at all times and believe that his or her gifts are plentiful, they will pick up on your pride and gleam themselves. If you continue to feel the unwavering love that parenthood brings and realize that there is no such thing as normal when it comes to children or parents – you can break out of the glasshouse that makes moms and dads feel so much pressure.
Being normal in childhood is not something that most kids do. The books, pediatricians, other moms, and manuals out there have a distorted vision in the hopes that they can classify all children into a neat and orderly group.
This is impossible. As a parent, you don’t have to feel embarrassed about your child and should realize that all kids are different and bring something very special and unique to this world. The key is finding those qualities.