When your Little Boy Plays with Dolls
Take a walk through the toy aisles at any store and you will see that gender lines have been drawn. Pink and frilly for everything girly and rough and tough for everything male. Today we will cover here about little boy plays with dolls.
Most stores even separate these aisles giving little boys and girls a rare glimpse at the toys their gender opposites are playing with.
Still, no matter how much you keep the boys away from the dolls or the girls away from the Tonka trucks your child’s personality and curiosity will spark and they will play avidly with anything they can get their hands on.
They may even prefer to play with the toys that are usually silently off-limits causing concerns to moms and dads who have unintentionally stereotyped their child. Having children can change the parent’s perceptions of just about every facet of life.
Leading psychologists encourage parents to allow their children creative rights to play how they choose. Too many parents interfere and inflict gender roles on their child out of fear that not doing so will hurt them somehow.
As your child gets older it doesn’t get any easier and you may force-feed baseball or football to your child when the violin is his true calling. As a parent, it is important to recognize your child’s interests and allow them to have the freedom to choose and decide on their own what they want to do.
This begins with affording them ample opportunity to play with the toys that they want and not making a fuss if they choose one that wouldn’t be your first choice.
It is normal for children to be interested in other toys. If for nothing else, the colors and newness of the toy can expand their world and give them an opportunity to role-play.
The truth is that all of us live with duality of feminine and masculine traits and ideas, and children do so without being concerned with “how it will appear.”
If you make a big deal about your little boy playing with dolls – you are shaming him for following his own pleasure in play and thwarting preconceived notions of your onto him.
It is said that little boys seem to have the most parental pressure put on them to comply with their gender. While girls can play in the mud, be a tomboy and embark on careers centered on sports or anything else without being looked down upon or judged, it isn’t so easy for a little boy to do so.
He may be teased for playing an instrument, rattled for enjoying cooking or called a mama’s boy for doing too many things “that girls do.” It seems that no matter how far the world has come, it hasn’t come far enough to allow people and children to do and feel what comes naturally to them.
Sure, your dreams of having a ballerina in your little princess may be squashed when she plays softball instead and your star quarterback thoughts fade as your son masters the piano…but it is their life.
Children should be encouraged and supported when they do the things that they love and are passionate about. Consider also that your toddler playing with big sisters Barbie’s is not the end of the world.
This doesn’t mean he won’t do boyish things and it certainly does give you a preordination of his future sexual preferences. It just means he is playing with Barbie’s after seeing his sister have so much fun and probably pretending that Barbie is mommy.
Once you become a parent, you have to allow your mind to open. The first hint of non-acceptance is tethered to your child’s heart in a long-lasting way. They may never understand why you feel the way you do or remember where the shame came from, but it will linger on in their emotional garbage for the rest of their lives.
Toddlers especially are too young to take on concepts from their parents that make absolutely no sense. Give them a break, buy your little boy a doll if he wants it and play with him. You may be surprised by what you learn.
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