Your Child is Clueless About What Makes a Good Parent
Once you realize that your kids have no idea that you might be lost in your parental path – you can relax and parent intuitively! Today we will cover here about what makes a good parent.
To browse the content of many parenting blogs or websites, it wouldn’t be difficult to conclude that there are some truly perfect mothers and fathers out there. Take it one step further, and by comparison, you are able to comfortably, and in all honesty, label yourself a total failure as a parent.
What if you can’t be at every event your child participates in? What if you aren’t crafty… at all? What if you don’t believe in sleep positioners, or organic food, or $500 car seats? What if you aren’t a Room Mother, or a Den Mother, or anything but just… a regular mother? Some might look down on you for not doing all of the things that a “good mom” is supposed to do.
But the silver lining in this adventure they call parenting is that your child thinks you are perfect. He has no idea that you don’t know what you are doing, or that you doubt the decisions you make. To your child, you are the most grown-up and wise person he’s ever known.
From the day he entered the world, he looked up to you. Yours was the first face he saw, and it told him that everything was okay, and he could count on you. And really, he’s the only person you answer to. Children have an amazing ability to put parents in their place. If only you will listen.
What is your child telling you? Does he really need all the “stuff” you are trying to provide him with, or does he need an afternoon fishing trip with his dad? Does he need to be enrolled in three different extracurricular activities that you rush him to and from all week, or does he need a peaceful home where he can count on dinner in his dining room with his family instead of rushing through a drive-thru to grab a quick bite on the go?
Does your toddler need a playgroup, full of mothers whom you have to look just right for, or does he need his mom to take him in the backyard… at his own house… and have a picnic and throw a ball?
There are so many groups and activities available to children that many parents have largely forgotten a much simpler way of life, and that it works. Participation in sports and other activities with his peers is an important part of his upbringing.
But the most important part of his upbringing, the most important part of his character building, are the life lessons he learns from his parents and siblings. There is no substitute for a loving home and a family that participates in each other’s lives.
There is nothing he can learn anywhere else that can replace the lessons he learns at your family dining room table. No playgroup, no expensive private school or daycare. There is no opportunity you can provide your child that serves him better than the opportunity to let him show you how perfect he thinks you are.